Listen to Me When Your Heart Breaks

The Heart of the Matter by India Arie

"It's about forgiveness…" This is absolutely the best phrase in the entire song. Basically, the song is about a woman who got a phone call from her friend telling her that her ex-lover has already found a new love.

My favorite line actually has a universal truth in it. Breakups are always about forgiveness, even when there's no love anymore.

Forgiveness for the hurt we cause each other.

Forgiveness for the wrongs we have done to each other.

Forgiveness for the things we could have done but failed to do.

It's about forgiving the person who has hurt you the most. It's about moving on. It's about not giving up the hope that someday somehow, we will find somebody new, somebody we may not anymore love as deep as we have loved someone before but somebody who deserves all the love we can give from the placed back pieces of our broken hearts.

Rise by Gabrielle

I'm not really sure if this song could actually help me get over a breakup, but it's worth listening to. The chorus goes "Look at my life; look at my heart.I have seen them fall apart, and now I'm ready to rise again."

They call it a breakup for a reason. When two people decide to go on separate ways, there are always devastating effects on at least one of them. When you go through a break up, it's not just the relationship that get's broken.

Hearts. Dreams. Lives. They all get broken too.

Unfortunately, wallowing in self despair and depression won't help. No matter how much your heart is broken, the world does not stop for your grief. The best we can do is to look into ourselves, find our inner strength, realize that even we are hurting, the future is still on our side. A day will come when our hurts will heal. When we are ready to rise again, we will find that, in love, no one ever wins without losing a few things along the way.

Doin’Just Fine by Boyz 2 Men

This song may not always make you feel better, but you'll have one good cry when you listen to it. Everybody needs to have a hell of a good cry when they go through a break up. Everybody needs to be able to get it all out of their system.

Breakups are hard. Songs usually work as a catalyst to getting over breakups or just to help you find it in yourself to take a good look at the relationship and realize if the break up will someday be a blessing in disguise or if the relationship is actually still worth fighting for.

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We all have our own “the one who got away.”

When I was younger, I used to always imagine that he and I would meet again someday. I would daydream about what it would be like to meet him again. There was just too much. I just could not get over it. It took me almost five years to completely get over him.

I realize that it’s not true that you never get over that one person who seem to have escaped your claws. People once told me that it is always hard to live with “what ifs” and other unrealistic illusions. I find, now, that they were wrong. The thing is, you do get over them. You CAN move on. You MIGHT actually have been better off.

I never got to see him again at all. Honestly, I don’t even know if I want to see him. I do not even know now why I spent a good part of my life being heartbroken by someone I would not even want to get to know now.

Yes, we always have that “the one who got away,” but in most cases, we seem to be better people because we loved and lost someone in the past. I remember the boy, and I always will. Five years of my life would not have been as colorful, had he not been a part of it. Those years would not have produced so much poetry, and I would never be as in tune with my emotions as I am now. I will always be grateful because I was young enough to believe in “someday we will meet again.”

But I don’t remember the feeling anymore. I am loved, and I am in love. I would never get to this point now if I had not gone through what I went through. Everything happens in it own time, even the “getting over” part.