Archive for April 14th, 2010

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Winning or Losing

April 14, 2010

What do you think of cheaters? I don’t just mean men who are committed to the respective girlfriends but men who are married and have children as well. However, even if they are fond of their family, they can’t help but cheat on their wives, lie to their children, and screw around with different women.

I know some men who are like that. I am not surprised by men who behave that way. I don’t condone or condemn them. I am only thankful that I did not have to grow up with that kind of environment.

We can’t stop men from “being men” as they say. If men really cannot stop themselves from cheating on their wives, well, there’s pretty much nothing we can do about it right? They already said it. It’s an urge they can’t control or probably lack to willpower to control.

I have always viewed cheating as a voluntary act. It is not like the muscles in your stomach working their way through digesting the food you ate. It’s not like your brain relentlessly trying to control all the other parts of your body. With cheating, everything is always controllable. Eveything is always under your control.

When you go out or meet with the person you’re cheating with, that’s voluntary. Your feet just won’t atomatically take you to that meeting place. You workΒ  on your own to get there. When you get to the point of no return, there is always that moment when you can always step back or back out. There’s always that split second where you can still change things. It is always a matter of choice, of decision.

Maybe that’s why I have little sympathy for cheaters. I had a wild ride when I was younger, but I never cheated on anybody. I don’t like cheaters, but I still consider them human beings who judge fail to make right decisions all the time. Sometimes, we don’t have to think whether one this is right or not, we just have to think about what SHOULD BE, and that’s we should stand by our decisions. If we’ve already decided to have our own families, then that should be final. Anything else that comes after that should only be a test as to how dedicated and faithful we are to our own decisions.

I am not a cheater. I don’t want to be cheated. But right now, I can only hope to never experience the pain that people experience when they realize that they have been cheated on. πŸ™‚

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Chocolate High – The History

April 14, 2010

When I started blogging, I always used the blog title “Heaven on Earth.” Even when I have transferred from one blog host to another, I kept using that title. However, when I started my WP blog, I realized I wanted to use something that had meaning to me.

I did not want to just use the default “Ishabelle’s blog” because it did not really define me at all. I love the thought of ownership, but I wanted my blog to not only show ownership but personality and relevance.

It was then that I remembered my favorite song, Chocolate High. The song is a collaboration by India Arie and Musiq Soulchild, two of the most talented contemporary RNB musicians that I know. I decided then to use the song title as my blog title.

I hope that I am not violating any copyright rules, since the phrase is actually common already. This may be the first that it was used as a blog, though.

I am so glad I decided to be different this time. My blog has never meant as much to me as it does now. Also, I find that I have never enjoyed blogging so much until I started this blog. I am really going to keep blogging until I am old, and I don’t have readers anymore. πŸ™‚

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